A procedure to intentionally end a pregnancy before a birth. Miscarriage is also sometimes called “spontaneous abortion,” even though it is usually not intended.
Purposeful harm or mistreatment of another person, which can be verbal, emotional, physical or sexual. An ongoing pattern or cycle of such mistreatment or harm can characterize an abusive relationship.
In the context of sexuality, an abbreviation for asexual.
People older than you who probably drive you batty. Or, people whose age in years exceeds the legal age of majority; people considered to be adults by law.
A state or demonstration of fondness or care for someone, which may or may not be sexual.
The age at which a person is considered in law to be able to consent to sexual activity. Someone above this age who has sex with someone below it can often be charged with statutory rape, even if the younger person wants to consent.
When two people are of different ages or life stages, usually with a substantial difference.
A chosen or felt lack of gender identity.
Behaving in a pushy, forceful or violent way.
Acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS) is a very serious and often deadly disease of the immune system caused by HIV. AIDS itself can not be caught from another person, but those with AIDS have HIV, which is sexually transmissible. AIDS requires medical treatment.
When a penis is inserted into and held by the anus while partners move their bodies as feels good to them for the purpose of sexual stimulation.
Sexual activity involving the anus. Anal sex may include stimulation with fingers, the mouth, a penis, sex toys, or other objects or body parts.
Oral sex for, on or to the anus.
The body, parts of the body, or physical structure of organisms like people, animals or plants.
Being neither distinguishably masculine nor feminine (or a mishmosh of both), in dress, appearance, behavior or identity, either by choice or by circumstance.
The external opening to the rectum, located between the buttocks.
Not having an interest in romantic relationships.
A state of sexual excitement and interest that sends messages to the brain which create physical changes and sensations, such as increased blood pressure, erection, lubrication, loosening of the vaginal or anal muscles, and increased physical sensitivity.
In the context of human sexuality, someone who either does not experience or has not yet experienced any sexual desires at all, or who has experienced/does experience sexual desires, but not a desire to enact them with other individuals.
To be self-assured, self-confident. To stand up for oneself in a positive, nonviolent way.
The state or condition of being independent and/or having the right to independence.
An imbalance in the vaginal environment, including pH changes, that occurs when different types of bacteria outnumber the normal, needed and healthy bacteria. It often requires some from of treatment, but sometimes will go away on its own.
Describes sexual play and/or relationships involving exchanges of power and pain. B = bondage, D = discipline and/or dominance, S = submission and/or sadism, M = masochism.
Made up of two things or parts; a system with only two possible options or parts.
Prejudice against bisexuality and bisexual people.
Any number of methods people use to intentionally prevent unwanted pregnancy, including the condom, the cervical barrier, the implant, the patch, the pill, the rhythm method, the ring, the shot, the IUD, spermicide and withdrawal.
A term for sexual orientation which either describes a person who can be sexually and emotionally attracted to both men and women or merely to people of more than one gender.
A stage of very early fetal development. If cell development continues and a blastocyst implants in the uterus, it will become an embryo and create a pregnancy.
A slang term for a state of vasocongestion that becomes temporarily painful. Called “blue balls” because in those with testes, discomfort is also felt there, but people with vulvas can experience this too, and discomfort then is often felt in the uterus or clitoris.
Our sense, awareness and perception of our body in appearance and function as it relates to our sense of self.
Glandular tissue, fat, connective tissue and skin on the chest.
Describes a person who is intentionally masculine in appearance, behavior, dress, identity or sexual attitude. Often used in relation to femme. Most often used in the LGBT community, but can refer to people of any orientation. However, some people see use of the word “butch” as an insult.
Describes someone who does not engage in sexual activity, usually by choice.
A birth control device which is inserted into the vagina to cover the cervix and prevent sperm from entering. Diaphragms, cervical caps and contraceptive sponges are kinds of cervical barriers.
The opening to the uterus, the bottom of which is at the back end of the vagina.
A method of keeping track of fertility by keeping careful notes on the dates of a woman’s period, as well as her temperature and cervical mucus. This is often used by people who are trying to get pregnant but is NOT an effective birth control method, as it fails frequently due to fluctuations in a woman’s cycle and the fact that sperm can live in a woman’s reproductive tract for several days. Also called “fertility awareness”.
A slang term used to describe either the hymen/corona or something which signifies someone has not done something for the first time. “Popping the cherry” often describes doing something sexual for the first time, even though with first-time sex, there are not usually cherries or the popping of anything.
A very common bacterial infection/STI. It can infect the cervix, urethra, testicles, fallopian tubes, and/or ovaries. It can also infect the throat when acquired through oral sex. Chlamydia requires medical treatment.
A surgical removal of the foreskin from the penis, most often done in infancy, and most often done because of cultural or religious beliefs, parental aesthetic preferences or concerns about health. In some cases, circumcision is done at other times of life and/or for medical reasons.
Describes people who have a gender identity which is traditionally thought to match their assigned sex, and thought to match many or most of the roles, behaviors and appearances culturally expected of that sex. For example, someone who was sexed male at birth and whose gender identity is masculine; who also feels male. Often used in relation to transgender.
Prejudice, discrimination and oppression based on social or economic status/class or perceived or assigned social or economic status.
In a sexual context, usually a word used to suggest not having any sexually transmitted infections. “Clean” is a poor choice of term, however, since it stigmatizes people with illness. Better choices are “negative,” “clear” or “STI-free.”
A sexual organ both external and internal on the vulva and inside the pelvis of female sex-assigned people that is similar to the penis, but serves no other known purpose besides providing sexual pleasure.
Various ways we express and share feelings or thoughts, such as through speech, written words or symbols, sign language, body language, touch or art.
The onset of pregnancy, marked by implantation of the blastocyst into the endometrium (the lining of the uterus).
A thin sheath or tube of latex or another material, worn over the penis during sex to prevent or reduce the risk of pregnancy and/or sexually transmitted infections.
To agree to do something or give permission. In the context of sex, a person is giving full consent/is consenting when they freely and actively agree to do something sexual with someone else; however, the person still has the right to change their mind at any point. A person is NOT consenting if they do not actively agree, have been forced or pressured in some way or are in a state where they are incapable of full consent (such as when asleep, under the influence of drugs or alcohol, or below the age of consent).
Devices, medications or behaviors used to intentionally aim to prevent pregnancy, including the condom, the cervical barrier, the implant, the patch, the pill, the rhythm method, the ring, the shot, the IUD, spermicide and withdrawal.
A method of birth control that consists of a spongy device filled with spermicide that provides a barrier at the entrance of the cervix.
A newer name for the hymen, a thin membrane without nerve endings that most female-assigned people are born with that is just inside the vaginal opening. It gradually wears away over time due to hormones, vaginal discharges, general physical activity, sex and masturbation and/or childbirth. It does not snap, crackle or pop.
The internal “legs” of the clitoris, which are within the outer labia (labia majora).
Oral sex for, on or to the vulva.
Heather’s pug, Sofia.
Virtual (as in, not in person) sexual experiences or encounters which involve text conversations and/or visual exchanges via the Internet.
CMV is one member of a group of herpes-type viruses. It is an STI transmitted through body fluids, and requires medical treatment.
How well something works.
In a sexual context, a discharge of genital fluid, usually (but not always) as a result of sexual stimulation and/or orgasm.
During a pregnancy, the term for the developing cells of an organism until around eight-nine weeks after an ovum was fertilized. After this time, the organism would then be called a fetus.
A method of contraception used to prevent pregnancy after sex or rape has already occurred, rather than used before or during, like most types of contraception.
To put something into action: to actively do something, not just think or feel it.
The lining of the uterus.
In a sexual context, when a kind of sex involves someone putting one body part inside the body part of another person, such as with intercourse. Some people use the word “penetration” instead.
When a body part, such as the penis or parts of the vulva, becomes filled with blood and enlarges and/or becomes more firm.
Various areas of the body with a greater number of sensory nerve receptors than other areas, which people may find particularly sexually stimulating, such as (but by no means limited to) the lips, tongue, palms, fingers, feet, inner thighs, anus, nipples, neck, collarbone, nose, ears, armpits and/or the genitals.
Written, visual or other kinds of media either expressly designed to elicit feelings of sexual desire and/or which people use to elicit those feelings.
A steroid hormone found in the bodies of all people which has several jobs. Like testosterone, people often say it’s responsible for things it doesn’t usually have much to do with (like mood).
Something that is not divided or shared with others; which excludes others based on a given criteria.
Two tubes that lead from the ovaries to the uterus. If and when an ovum is fertilized by a sperm, fertilization typically happens within the fallopian tube.
Fertility awareness methods of birth control, achieved by charting of fertility, ideally daily via cervical mucus and basal body temperatures, and interpreting that charting to determine when fertility is most and least likely, then abstaining or using a backup method during most fertile times.
Oral sex for, on or to the penis.
A barrier method of contraception somewhat similar to a male condom, but inserted into the vagina rather than put on the penis. It has a flared base that sits on the outer parts of the vulva to hold it in place.
Describes something society associates with or attributes to women and girls or a state, experience or assignment of being female.
Describes a person who is intentionally feminine in appearance, behavior, dress, identity or sexual attitude. Often used in relation to butch. Most often used in the LGBT community, but can refer to people of any orientation.
A method of keeping track of fertility by keeping careful notes on the dates of a woman’s period, as well as her temperature and cervical mucus. This is often used by people who are trying to get pregnant but is NOT an effective birth control method, as it fails frequently due to fluctuations in a woman’s cycle and the fact that sperm can live in a woman’s reproductive tract for several days. Also called “fertility charting” or just “charting”.
In humans, the stage of prenatal development after an embryo, usually from about the eighth-ninth week after fertilization.
A term used to describe deep manual sex, where many fingers or a hand are gradually inserted into the vagina or anus.
What some people call sexual activities that are not intercourse which they may do before intercourse or as a “warmup” to intercourse, such as kissing, manual sex or oral sex. However, all kinds of “foreplay” can also be or are kinds of sex, and may sometimes be the only sex people choose to or can engage in at a given time, or altogether.
A loose tube of skin with nerve endings that extends from shaft of the penis to below the glans and which normally covers the head of the penis when it is not erect. Those born with penises are also born with a foreskin, but some foreskins are removed (circumcised) in infancy or later in life for any of a variety of different reasons.
A small fold of skin at the posterior (bottom) end of the vulva.
People who have a sexual relationship that is not romantic, but where they are also (and are supposed to behave like) friends. Often a casual relationship, but not always. FWBs may or may not be exclusive.
Rubbing against the body of another person — usually with clothes on — to express sexual feelings or seek out sexual pleasure. “Dry humping” is a form of frottage.
Friends with benefits.
A portion of the internal clitoris 1-3 inches within the vagina on the anterior (front) wall which can be sexually stimulating and which is often associated with female ejaculation.
In the context of sexuality, a word for sexual orientation which either describes a man who is sexually and emotionally attracted to other men, or a person of any sex or gender who is sexually and emotionally attracted to people of the same or a similar sex or gender. Often used alongside lesbian.
Characteristics that are seen or presented as distinguishing between male and female. Gender may or may not include assigned or chosen: sex, social roles, feelings, behaviors and/or presentation or appearance.
Discomfort with an assigned sex and/or gender and/or the gender norms and roles associated with either.
The way people externally communicate gender identity to others through their behavior and their outward, chosen appearance.
A person’s own sense of whether and in what sense they feel they might be a man, a woman, a boy, a girl or gender nonconforming.
People who do not adhere to or who protest cultural rules or norms about dress, behaviors or activities for people based on their sex.
What is considered “normal” for a given gender or sex, even if it’s not. These ideas may be widespread, or may be specific to a given group, area or historical period of time.
Describes someone whose chosen gender identity is neither masculine nor feminine, is between or beyond genders, which rejects binary gender, or which is some combination of genders.
Kinds of sex people have which involve the vulva, vagina, penis, testicles, anus and/or rectum or any immediate areas surrounding those parts.
External sexual or reproductive organs.
On the penis, the head of the penis. On the vulva, the external portion of the clitoris, beneath the clitoral hood.
G = gay, L = lesbian, B = bisexual, T = transgender. Additional letters sometimes added include Q = queer/questioning, U = unsure, I = intersex, P = pansexual, S = straight allies.
The organs that make ovum or sperm cells (the ovaries and testes respectively).
A bacterial infection/STI which can infect the cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes, urethra, mouth, throat or anus. It requires medical treatment.
An exam usually for those with a vulva/vagina that may involve any of the following: a visual exam of the genitals, a breast exam, a bimanual exam, a speculum exam, a pap smear, STI testing, birth control consultation and other education or healthcare services.
(Pronounced guy-na-coll-o-jist) A doctor that specializes in the health of the female reproductive tract. They may also be referred to as “OB/GYNs” or, informally, “gynos”.
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